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When we meet people or get into a new relationship, we start putting all these repressive restrictions on ourselves. I can’t have my feelings. Can’t have my wants and needs. Can’t have my history. Can’t do the things I want, or say what I need to say. I turn into this repressed, perfectionist robot, instead of being who I am: me.
Sometimes, our instinctive reaction to being in a new situation is: don’t be ourselves. Who else can we be? Who else would you want to be? We don’t need to be anyone else. The greatest gift we can bring to any relationship wherever we go is being who we are.
We may think others won’t like us. We may be afraid that if we just relax and be ourselves, the other person will go away or shame us. We may worry about what the other person will think. But, when we relax and accept ourselves, people often feel much better being around us than we are rigid and repressed.
If others don’t appreciate us, do we really want to be around them? Do we need to let the opinions of others control us and our behaviour?
Today, I learned to let go of my fears about being myself. Letting myself relax and be me in my relationship. Doing this only shows that I accept myself and value who I am.
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K lives in Hong Kong, who loves music, homes & architectures, movie trailers and all things . My life in this city project a lot of things - it’s all about the taxis, the billboards, the sidewalks, the cinemas, the zebra lines, the lights, the cars, the sounds, the people, the skyscrapers and the shopping malls.
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But (sometimes when I say “but”, I am opposing here..) of course everyone pretends to be someone else atleast once or twice, don’t we? Like our blog, not many of us speaks “who we really are” (including myself). Quite often when I speak with my clients, I am different. But when I speak to someone I am close to, I’m the real self. Not that I do not like what I pretend to be, it sometimes becomes necessary to pretend to be nice and cordial with people even when they are eating your head and breaking it to pieces. But when I’m angry, I’d of course show it, not say it.
“We are what we pretend to be, but we must be careful what we pretend to be”.
I think,it’s part of life’s package we simply CAN’T please everyone.Sooo complicated to elaborate,lol
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I’m just updating stylesheet, trying to know what CSS means kaya naka “maintenance” kunyari, pretending I’m a geek, hahaha.
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With me, what you see is what you get. I prefer to talk than write, that’s why you rarely see me blogging. But I can be quiet too and know how to listen too.
If people can’t accept me, so be it. I always tell hub and myself too, that if they don’t like me to be a friend, it’s ok, I’m not going to die…
This I also say especially to my nephews and nieces:
If you are poor, don’t pretend that you are rich, and if you are rich, don’t brag about it.
In some point, I guess life is all about pretending. Think about it, how often do we pretend to be busy at work (or at least you aim to look busy) when the manager walks by? How do we pretend to care about someone else’s problems to be able to play the political game in life (“hey, how sad you did not get the promotion, you deserved it”). But all of this make-believing literally makes us believe. It becomes a reality. At work when I am mad of something, sometimes I pretend I don’t hear something so I don’t have to do it, I usually like to call those a “miscommunication.”
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