It isn’t about how you dress or who you hang with. It’s all about the way you see yourself and how you deal with others.
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What is individuality? To me, it’s about being totally ‘yourself’, following your own strut. It’s like giving a big ‘what the fuck face’ to the things that you don’t believe in. It’s not about doing these or that things just because it’s the ‘cool thing to do’. It’s like looking after yourself, keeping a level head and not letting people get to you just because you may not be into their world, if you know what I’m saying.
There’s a lot of people have a longing to ‘fit in’. People are afraid of being excluded from the society and therefore they will do just about anything to try and fit in to a certain group of people. It happens everywhere. In the sense of trying to fit into one social group or another, you always get into the risk of losing yourself as a person. Some people could just care less of the effects, they just want to be accepted. They love the feeling of having others around them, even if the people around them are nothing more than just a bunch of fools. It makes them feel good about themselves, makes them feel like they worth it.
When I was going through my FOB days here in Hong Kong, I have met a lot of so-called friends and somehow I’d find it rather difficult that I didn’t see myself fitting into this and that group. I much rather preferred just getting along with everyone. Obviously, it seems like everyone has to listen to the same music, wear the same clothes, and act the same way. People get into their own shoes with one another and eventually I felt like I’m not into things I didn’t want any part of in the first place. It’s easy to get along with a groups by adopting yourself with particular people, but getting along with everybody seems to be just totally pathetic.
What’s the point? Well if you didn’t notice, behind your back, some people are alot tougher than they are in person. If you think about it, say when you don’t like someone, you probably tell your friend what an asshole/bitch he/she is, and call him/her all sorts of beautiful adjectives and it makes you feel pretty good about yourself. God knows I’ve done it before, but there is a problem with doing this. It’s simply nothing more than being a coward. If you don’t feel like wanting to like everybody, there are always going to have people who’ll rub you off the wrong way.
There are always going to have bad people. Yes there are many. Bad mouthing about certain people who are nothing more than wasting of your precious time is just ridiculous. And at the same time, even as much as you try, some people still won’t like you. Accept it, it’s a fact of life. I mean, the point is, if you’ve got a problem with someone then you should deal with it nicely and get it out of your life. Best thing to do is to ignore them, tell them to their face, or just deal with the issue and everybody is going to be better off.
You can get along with some people all the time, you can get along with all of the people some of the time, but you can’t get along with all of the people all of the time. The best thing to do? Just be yourself and people will either like you or not, doesn’t matter at all. I guarantee you that nine (9) times out of ten (10) people will like you more that way than trying to be something you’re not.
Chronomentrophobia
by: Outkast
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haaaay naku. one cannot please everybody. so express yourself and let them adopt you…plang?
Ok lang yun. It wasn’t a big deal. That person still around reading my blog. Hahaha.
But you know, internet and blogging is not the place to judge others. You’ll find a lot of rude people around because their parents probably didn’t teach them the “rules”. What I mean it’s not the parents fault. I’m just saying it’s a cause.
What? They gave you names? How rude!!! I just hate people who give names and crtitize someone deconstructively. They let my blood boil
In any circumstances, I just be myself, whether they like me or not. Why spend time on them (who’s anyway worthless), when you have more time to keep yourself up and busy, right? I feel you, K.
You’re making me feel better now Ate Sach.
I’m like these all the time, when I am down, I tend to feel like one day I’m having a big swing then the next day I’m mad. By writing it down, I felt relieved.
Still enjoying my music playlist?
hi k…nice post..i read it slowly,digesting it.
don’t make waves..protruding nails will be hammered..these are some of the popular proverbs here in Japan. I don’t like it..i don’t wanna be like everybody. some think im weird but it’s individuality with the right common sense.
and yeah,i can be one of your somebodies..you are one of my special blogger friends.
Pushing my button? Nah just once in a while I get a little sensitive at things but I’m taking it easy.
One more question.
Did you got a bit fatter?
Don’t hate me! It’s just a question.
Ok,who pushed your buttons now?
Yeah that’s a very sensitive perspective. I do not mind being alone for extended periods of time. I’ve come to grips a lot with myself lately but I’m scared being “alone” literally.
Nice posting K! I’d rather be alone and being myself than being someone I’m not!
I was staring at the blank screen before I open up my tiny window, letting the sun penetrates the words that I could not even think to write then in one milisecond, it happened.
I guess everything inspires me like every couple of days I get a new idea in my head and get so excited over it. I wish i had the time to write them all down.
Alam ko na, my new Music blog, inspires me these days.
What ispired you to write such a post?
JV, an easy way to say it is to “Go Fug Yourself”. I’m just kidding.
I mean, it’s not easy to please everyone, people will always find fault with yourself or whatever else they can come up with, it hurts when someone criticizes you. I remember somebody gave me names (as being sarcastic) from what I wrote. Personally, if you don’t like it, don’t read it. Simple as that.
Just like the philosophy of existentialism: be yourself and let them be. Philosophers say that trying to fit in a group is just a matter of acceptance. But I don’t think that’s a proper way of saying it, since we are sociable people, and we interact with one another.
“No man is an island.”
Imagine pleasing billions of people… it would certainly drive you nuts! No matter what you are or who you are, be yourself against all odds.
And as the saying goes, “He who tries to please everybody pleases nobody”.
That is quite true K. I used to be a people-pleaser but as I grew up I realised that you can’t please everyone so I stick to being myself and I dont really care on what other people say. I just give them a finger.
Aherm, yeah. “What goes around, comes around.” If you behave honestly you will be rewarded. If you hate and screw everybody around you suffer for it. And I would like to believe in it.
Point taken sir!
You can never stop a dog’s tail from wagging can you? So, let it be. Ooo.. believe in karma.
Too serious ba?
amen!